My Mother that is!
Some of you may remember that we have been struggling with the girls' ages.
We do not believe that they are the ages that were given to them in Ch*na and in fact, believe that they are both younger...
but how in the world do you determine just how old.
We have had bone scans done...
We have had dental xrays taken...
We have consulted developmental doctors, international adoption doctors, our pediatrician, teachers and therapists...
and while they have all been helpful...
in the end, no one is certain and no one has the same answer.
So, we have talked about it, we have prayed about it and after making a decision that we were all comfortable with...
we got thrown a curve ball and were back at square one.
Sigh...
So as we once again began to brood over what ages would work best for the girls...
the Lord brought our answer in the form of a palm to the forehead kind of moment.
I had not talked to my Mom all week...
which was unusual but I was sick and sounded much worse than I felt and did not want to worry her, cause...
she worries
*grin*
Soooo, Mom called me last night, late, which again is unusual...
but she was worried...
see I told ya
*grin again*
as I began to lay it all out for Mom, she calmly said...
"Just make them the ages that you think serves them best right now. When they are 18 and 19, it really won't matter but it does matter now and they have a lot of catching up to do."
WOW
Alrighty then...
Wish we had consulted Dr. Mom first!
She is so right! My sweet girls have a lot of lost love to catch up on, a lot of loss-es to make up for.
She is so right! My sweet girls have a lot of lost love to catch up on, a lot of loss-es to make up for.
Thank you Lord for using my Mom's calm wisdom to guide us to our answer.
She opens her mouth with wisdom, And on her tongue is the law of kindness.
Proverbs 31:26
been there done that and it sure was a hard decision but we decided to change Janie's age by one year based on EXACTLY what your mother said. Now that it is done (she turned 5 again last May) it was the very best decision. We held her back again in school and I just can't tell you how much it has helped her. She has blossomed this year. She is so much more confident being with children that match her maturity and growth. We are so thankful we did it! I can tell you that we wrestled and prayed over the decision for many many months as you have been doing. Once it is decided you will not look back:)
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